maintain a relaxed, open posture.
Your body language is the first place to start:
- Don't appear shut down and closed off.
- Don't put a leg or an arm like a barrier between you and your guy.
- Don't hug yourself, as if you feel afraid.
Remember that flirting can happen between anyone.
You don't have to be strangers -- or acquaintances -- to flirt. It's a great way to move a relationship from friendship toward a more emotional connection. For instance, flirting with a person you have cultivated as a friend sends the message that you want to change the nature of the relationship. Of course, picking someone completely inappropriate, such as your friend's spouse, will get you into trouble.
Maximize the important features.
Men are more visually oriented than women. Research indicates that men generally notice your face first -- specifically, your eyes and smile. (Hint: The third feature is not on your face.) The best way to maximize your eyes and smile is to work on being happy from the inside out. We all hate that fake, plastic smile we get when someone takes too long to take our pictures. That same empty smile is on the face of someone who is faking happiness. True happiness leaps out of your eyes and your smile. When you are truly happy, you drop out of the grinding image management zone. Bottom line: Pure joy is an extremely magnetic head-turner.
Be an extrovert.
Guys feel a lot of pressure to initiate everything. Studies show that being an extrovert is one of the top five personality traits linked to happiness. If you are naturally an introvert, don't despair: Instead, hop on that extrovert bicycle and give it a whirl. You’ll feel wobbly and awkward for a while, but you’ll get the hang of it and discover it's quite exhilarating. (Caution: Don’t veer off into the obnoxious. Just stay balanced.) You’ll enjoy people more as an extrovert, and you’ll find that men are more at ease around you.
Feel good about yourself.
Men find women with confidence extremely attractive. Even if you don’t look like a supermodel, be confident with your personality and appearance. If you accept and love yourself for who you are, so will Mr. Right when you find him.