Show your gratitude.
Letting your friend know how you feel about her can make a huge difference to her. She'll feel great knowing that you love and appreciate her -- and you will feel great for making her smile.
Our response to positive events makes a significant difference in our relationships. When your friend tells you that she met a great guy or got a promotion, do you say "that's nice" and then switch topics? Or, do you engage her and encourage her to talk about it by asking questions? For instance, you might ask what his name is, what he looks like, and what the two of them talk about. Regarding the job, you might ask what she'll be doing every day, how her boss told her, and when she starts. Savoring positive events increases positive emotion, leading to increased overall psychological and physical well-being.
Spend time together laughing & playing.
Happy people like to be around happy people. Furthermore, playing together strengthens bonds, boosts positive feelings and creates lasting memories about which women can reminisce for years to come. Finding time isn't always easy when we're juggling careers, romance and families, but it's worth it. Women have more oxytocin (the love hormone), so we feel good being with each other. Schedule time for friends, just as you schedule time for your weekly meeting with the boss.
Get a life.
If you want to meet people with whom you have something in common, do things on a regular basis that involve others, says Tina B. Tessina, Ph.D. -- aka, "Dr. Romance" -- psychotherapist and author of The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again. For example, try taking classes, joining hobby clubs, volunteering, playing a sport or game, hiking, or enjoying any pursuit that meets regularly. The people you meet will share your interest, and you'll have something to talk about and enjoy together. Don't rely on online sources such as Twitter and Facebook; these can be helpful to keep in touch, but they don't replace face-to-face friendship.
Find interesting, fun people.
Being involved in an ongoing activity and meeting with the same people on a regular basis give you a chance to get to know them before you decide to pursue a more personal relationship, offers Tessina. When you find someone you think is particularly pleasant, spend a little time talking with him during or after your activity. Ask questions about the project you're working on, or share experiences and advice. If you both enjoy the conversation, you can suggest that you meet before or after the session for coffee. From there, you can begin do more things together until you've established a pattern of friendship.
Don't overlook people you already know.
Call a favorite family member or childhood friend and suggest a walk or lunch. Reach out to acquaintances at work, at church, in your neighborhood, at school or elsewhere with whom you could develop, rekindle or strengthen a friendship. Let these people know that you'd like to share events and activities, says Tessina.
Spending quality time with friends is beneficial to your emotional, mental and physical health. If you follow the above steps, you'll find that making and keeping friends isn't as difficult as you might think.